BRENÉ BROWN: THE ANATOMY OF TRUST

What does it mean to trust someone?
What does it mean to trust yourself?

Brené Brown breaks down her world renowned research into a jar of marbles (Pote de Berlindes)…yes, a Jar of Marbles.

Brené Brown’s SuperSoul Session takes you step by step through the acronym B.R.A.V.I.N.G, revealing the anatomy of trust and why it all starts with the small, everyday moments you might be missing. 

B  BOUNDARIES
R  RELIABILITY
A  ACCOUNTABILITY
V  VOLT
I   INTEGRITY
N  NOT JUDGEMENT
G  GENEROSITY

Brené Brown breaks down her world renowned research.
Great insights on trust, integrity.
How do you build trust?
Can you trust yourself?

My favorite quote: "I dont't trust people who don't love themselves, but say I love you."

African Proverb: "Be wary of the naked man offering you a shirt."

Esta palestra, lembrou-me uma história que li há algum tempo, do Pote de Compota.
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There once was a professor of philosophy, who in front of his Class, took a large empty pot of jam and without saying a word, began to fill it with golf balls.

Then he asked his students if the jar was full. The Students replied: YES.

The professor then took a box full of marbles and poured the marbles into the pot of jam. The marbles filled the gaps in between the Golf balls. The Professor asked the students again if the jar was full. Again, they replied: YES .

At that point, the professor took a bag of sand and poured it into the pot of jam. Of course, the sand filled all the remaining gaps and the professor asked again if the jar was full. The Students unanimously answered: YES.

The professor then added two cups of coffee to the contents of the jar thus filling the small gaps between the grains of sand. The students started laughing. After they stopped, the professor said:
"I want you to realize that the pot of jam represents Life.

The golf balls are the very important things in Life such as family, children, health, everything you are passionate about. Our lives would still be full even if we'd lost everything else and these were the only things that remained.

The marbles are the other things that count in our lives such as work, house, car, etc ...

The sand represents everything else, all the small things in life.

If we had first poured sand into the pot of jam, there wouldn't have been any room left for anything else such as the marbles or the golf balls.

It's the same thing in Life.
If we put all our energy and all our time into the small things, we will never have any time/space left for the things that really matter.

Pay attention to the things that are really important to your happiness. 
Play with your children, take time to go to the doctor, have dinner with your spouse/partner, exercise or take time to enjoy your favorite pass-times.

There will always be time to do the cleaning and fix the taps on the kitchen sink ...

Take care of the golf balls first, of the things that really matter. Choose your priorities, the rest is just sand."

One of the students then raised a hand and asked what the coffee meant.

The professor smiled and said:
"It's good that you ask. I only added coffee to show that although your lives may seem full and busy, there is always room for a cup of coffee with a friend. Good day to all ..."

~ Author Unknown ~



Na história da filha da Brené Brown, a professora tinha um Pote na sala de aula.
Se os alunos fizessem boas escolhas juntos, a professora adicionava berlindes ao pote.
Mas se os alunos tomassem más decisões em conjunto a professora retirava berlindes do pote.
Quando o pote ficava cheio, a turma fazia uma festa para celebrar.

Brené disse à filha que a CONFIANÇA é como um Pote de Berlindes:
Nós partilhamos os momentos tristes, as experiências difíceis que acontecem connosco, com amigos que, ao longo do tempo vamos enchendo o pote com berlindes. Com o passar do tempo, vamos enchendo o Pote de Berlindes e vamos sentindo que podemos partilhar o que for com aquela pessoa.

Se eu tenho Amigos de Pote de Berlindes?
Muito poucos!
E nos últimos anos foi só tirar berlindes...mas houve outros, poucos,  que tem sido só adicionar.

O que esses amigos fazem para eu adicionar berlindes ao pote?
Pequenos Momentos que significam MUITO para mim.

Quanto ao meu próprio Pote de Berlindes, esteve a meio, tive de o esvaziar para começar a enchê-lo de novo...de dia para dia, devagarinho, está a encher...
Não podemos dar aos outros, aquilo que não temos...

Mas afinal o que são esses berlindes?
É o que a Brené chama de Anatomia da Confiança, B.R.A.V.I.N.G.
LIMITES
CONFIÁVEL
RESPONSABILIDADE
VOLT
INTEGRIDADE
NÃO JULGAR
GENEROSIDADE