sexta-feira, 28 de junho de 2024

Lost Child Syndrome

 




The term dysfunctional family is used to give a name to a family that does not function within normal parameters. There may be alcoholism, drug abuse, neglect, and abuse. These disturbed families harbor children who, because of their debilitated families, are not capable of living the lives they should have. 
As a result of the dysfunction in these families, children take one of four different and predictable, limiting roles. 
These roles include the hero, the scapegoat, the lost child, and the mascot. This article will focus on the lost child, what it consists of and, how to heal.

Who are Lost Children?
Lost children spend an excessive amount of time hiding in plain sight. They expend all their energies trying not to get noticed by anyone, including teachers, other children, and their caregivers.

This behavior is usually the result of neglect and abuse, where the child felt trapped and unable to escape. Their only line of defense was to remain quiet and still knowing that eventually, the traumatic event will pass.

Lost children are mostly made up of third-born children but can be any child from oldest to youngest.

Lost children, in early childhood, develop a belief that they are powerful enough to blame themselves for the woes of their families. They feel they want too much and that they do not have a place in the world. They learn early to be quiet, unassuming, so they are out of the way.

The lost child spends a great deal of time daydreaming, fantasizing, and creating worlds in her mind where she is happier than with her true family. They love to do solitary activities like watching TV, playing video games, and reading.

Lost children are invisible, lonely, and afraid.


The Lost Child as an Adult
Adult lost children, because of their upbringing, are not equipped to handle the world. 
This is because they have disconnected from their families. 
This means they are left without any knowledge of what to expect in life or from relationships.

Adult lost children feel left out, angry, isolated, sad, confused, and powerless because they did not learn in their childhoods how to get along in the world. They might go from relationship to relationship searching for the family she did not have or form no relationships at all.

Their problems with relationships are directly related to their treatment in childhood. 
Lost adult kids feel people cannot be trusted and that they must remain self-reliant and not trust anyone else to meet their needs.


Harmful Belief Patterns in Grown Lost Children
Invisible children as adults tend to keep self-defeating beliefs that they formed in early to late childhood. The first belief is that they have the power to hurt others around them by taking up space in the world.

Grown lost children form what is called omnipotence guilt, the belief that they have the power to do anything and guilt because they cannot. Omnipotent guilt basically is the belief that I have the power to do anything for my loved ones and guilt because I cannot achieve happiness for them.

Another harmful belief is that people are too unreliable, unstable, and fragile for them to depend on them. As children, these lost adults were faced with grown-ups in their family who could not be relied upon to meet their physical and emotional needs. So, it makes sense they would believe this in adulthood.


Four Signs You Might Be a Lost Child
While the following traits of a lost child are pertinent, they are not all-inclusive. 
The four signs are they are isolated, numb, self-sacrificing, and lack intimacy.

Isolated. It makes sense that someone who hid from stress and abuse as a child will become an isolated adult. Lost children in adulthood mimic being an introvert. They have few friends, are reserved in showing their true feelings, and avoid social activities.

Numb. Adult lost children have problems feeling emotions. They may have difficulties feeling sad when something bad happens, or difficulty feeling happy. They have lived in this numbness since childhood and are practiced at hiding their emotions.

Self-Sacrificing. Most adult lost children are selfless, they give generously to others, especially those they love. However, this trait can be self-defeating as these invisible children now grown to be adults, give too much of themselves. They lose their own needs in the shadows. This giving trait makes adult lost kids vulnerable to people who would take advantage of them. The cause of being self-sacrificing to a fault is that as children, they never asked or received much from their caregivers.

Lack of Intimacy. Most lost children raise themselves, and as adults, they fail at any intimate relationships they attempt to form. This failure is the result of a lack of enjoyment of physical and emotional intimacy caused by the lack of connections they made in childhood.


How to Overcome Being an Invisible (Lost) Child
Recovery from any amount of childhood neglect and abuse is not simple. It takes much time and dedication, however, it can be done.

The first step is to establish a relationship with a mental health professional. 
At first, the relationship an adult lost child forms will be very surface, meaning they will not disclose much. This is especially true of emotional feelings.

The only way to defeat being a lost child is to face your past head-on. That does not mean you will do it alone, like in the past. Therapy means to experience the rage and loneliness you had as a child with someone else who can help you understand your feelings.

  1. Adults know they have reached healing when they refuse to live as victims of other people’s dramas and no longer consent to not being in control of their lives. 
  2. They will also be capable of saying no to the requests of others without feeling extreme guilt and shame. 
  3. Finally, they have become capable of feeling free to focus on their own dreams.




Shirley Davis 





“Be brave enough to live the life of your dreams 
according to your vision and purpose 
instead of the expectations and opinions of others.” 
~ Roy Bennett


“Reality is a dream 
that someone was brave enough to conquer.”
 ~ Shannon L. Alder



“Dream your own dreams, 
achieve your own goals. 
Your journey is your own and unique.” 
~ Roy Bennett




quarta-feira, 26 de junho de 2024

Medeia, mochilas e a antinomia da solidão

 

Stellar





A invisível mochila 
da nossa vida passada – não importa quão 
curta ou longa ela seja – acompanha-nos na jornada. 
Compete-nos escolher quão pesada será, porque 
a memória desconhece a lei da gravidade.


Chama-se antinomia – do grego ἀντί (anti), “oposto”, e νόμος (nómos), “lei” – ao paradoxo pelo qual duas afirmações que se contradizem podem ser confirmadas como algo real em ambos os casos. É o que acontece com um par de contraditórias emoções do ser humano, que podem – ou melhor, devem – ser ambas vivenciadas simultaneamente. O princípio kantiano da não contradição não se aplica aos nossos sentimentos.

Será «A» a razão das minhas lágrimas? Ou «não A»? São ambas, pois é ao princípio da antinomia que obedecem as inquietações que diariamente experimentamos, razão pela qual vivemos imersos num constante e vão combate com a vida e connosco mesmos: procuramos a cada ocasião a lógica que regula os sentimentos conflituantes que vivenciamos e, frustrados, experimentamos sempre a exceção.

“Não são de hoje, nem de ontem, mas vigoram sempre, e ninguém sabe quando surgiram nem onde” diz Antígona sobre a contradição das leis não escritas que regulam as nossas vidas na tragédia homónima de Sófocles.

A razão emerge da irracionalidade. Não há limite sem liberdade. Não há amor sem dor, nem júbilo sem tristeza. E não há escolha que não arraste consigo uma palavra cortante e certeira: adeus.

Medeia nunca chorou tanto como quando se preparava para abandonar para sempre a sua família, a sua casa, a sua terra. E, simultaneamente, nunca foi tão feliz como quando se apaixonou por Jasão e decidiu partir com aquele estranho rumo a um país também ele desconhecido. Soluçava enquanto fugia do palácio onde nascera e fora criada, enquanto acariciava o leito e as belas paredes da sua infância com uma doçura que era já saudade. Diante dos seus últimos passos na Cólquida, os ferrolhos das portas abriam-se para si. Corria descalça em direção ao Argo pelas ruas da cidade que outrora a vira a brincar e que naquele momento assistia silenciosamente às lágrimas que lhe humedeciam o rosto. Iguais eram em intensidade a alegria e o desespero e “o coração batia-lhe como uma fúria pelo medo” de sentimentos tão opostos e dolorosos.

Até Mene, a Lua, se regozijou, maliciosa e triste, ao contemplar do alto a fuga de Medeia. Ela bem sabia o que sentia aquela menina, porque também ela nada mais faz do que vagar inquieta pela abóbada celeste, perpetuamente dividida entre a divina tarefa de iluminar o mundo durante a noite e o amor terreno e humano por Endimião. É precisamente quando não consegue resistir ao seu desejo que somos forçados a viver as nossas noites negras sem lua: Mene cede à paixão e corre para se esconder no Monte Latmos, para reencontrar o homem que ama. Gritou-lhe a Lua: «Corre, Medeia, e prepara-te para suportar esta dor, por sábia que sejas, corre!»

A bordo do Argo, Medeia deixou-se embalar pelas ondas nocturnas do mar e pelos braços fortes daquele que escolheu para seu companheiro. Estava feliz por partir, mas desesperada por deixar a sua terra natal. Estendia as mãos trémulas em direção à costa, à medida que esta ia ficando cada vez mais longe até se fundir com o horizonte.

Escolher ser algo diferente daquilo que somos, ser quem queremos, envolve sempre um abandono definitivo. Chega um momento em que não temos escolha a não ser dizer adeus às pessoas que amamos ou que já não amamos, aos nossos amigos, à nossa cidade, até àqueles que sempre odiámos. No entanto, nunca mais ouvir ou ver alguém nas nossas vidas é talvez a mais difícil das provações.

Podemos dizer adeus a tudo o que aconteceu, mas nunca haverá uma separação real. 
As pessoas com quem convivemos, as que amámos e odiámos, contribuíram para moldar quem somos. Tornaram-se parte de nós. Melhor, elas são nós. As nossas memórias estão tão intimamente ligadas entre si que as palavras que usamos, a música que ouvimos, a pessoa que amamos, já não têm uma vida própria, independente daquele em que nos tornámos. 

A partir do momento em que estamos neste mundo deixamos um pouco de nós em todos os lugares e qualquer indivíduo se torna parte de nós. Tudo o que nos acontece, portanto, é fecundo e perigoso, quase sempre doloroso, jamais neutro. Se pudéssemos sair da nossa história, mesmo que por um instante, talvez então a separação fosse possível, real. Mas tal sortilégio não consentem os deuses: podemo-nos alegrar e sofrer pelo exacto e mesmo amor, chorar e sorrir pela exacta e mesma escolha, viver o presente com saudade do passado – eis a nossa humana antinomia.

A invisível mochila da nossa vida passada – não importa quão curta ou longa ela seja – acompanha-nos na jornada. Compete-nos escolher quão pesada será, porque a memória desconhece a lei da gravidade. Poderá ser ligeira como uma pena ou opressiva como um fardo, dependendo de como soubermos viver a duplicidade do abandono, que é simultaneamente dor e libertação, liberdade e saudade e, sobretudo, medo.

Jamais poderemos existir sem carregar connosco a trouxa de quem fomos, de quem nos criou, de quem amámos e, mais tarde, de quem perdemos ou escolhemos perder. O preço seria não mais sermos viajantes que vão de um porto a outro nas nossas vidas, mas andarilhos, banidos de nós mesmos, necessariamente esquecidos do porto de onde partimos.

Matematicamente, só vale um, o oposto de dois. 
Um, o número da exclusividade que todos desejamos. 
Um, o número da solidão que tanto tememos – desabitados, abandonados, vazios, não importa se no nosso quarto ou em companhia de outros, sempre separados de alguém ou de alguma coisa.

Tão fácil a matemática – essa ciência exacta, dizem-me – do nosso sentir! Tão desarmante a sua capacidade de contar apenas até dois, dividir o nosso mundo entre singular e plural. E, contudo, quão difícil é dar um nome às coisas da vida antes que petrifiquem e não possamos mais movê-las.

Se esta noite virem uma menina a percorrer – descalça, pés ligeiros e dentes ainda tortos – as ruas da sua juventude rumo ao porto onde o Argo, enfunado pelo vento de feição, a aguarda, perguntem-lhe o que é que Mene, no alto céu, lhe grita.

Talvez ela sorria.


Paulo Ramos




Sai de ti

 






Sai de Ti
(ou coleção de imperativos primavera-verão para o outono de teu desconcerto)

Não fujas do que sentes. Não te escondas
no que dizes. Não digas mentiras.
Sê tua voz. Faz. Trabalha. Não te queixes.
Não sofras por medo de sofrer mais.
Não mendigues jamais o que mereces.
Por exemplo, o amor. Fá-lo e o terás.
Funda no fogo firme de sua fogueira
o teu lugar, teu ofício. E agradece o ar
que entra e sai de ti. Sê a janela
do que vive. Olha com cuidado.
Há olhares que podem envenenar o mundo.
Não deixes que apodreça o que sentes
dentro de ti. Faz um exame de consciência
de vez em quando mas nunca te esqueças
que é possível que sejas inocente.
Abre teu coração encouraçado
ao casamento do céu com o mar,
da luz com a sombra,
do canto dos grilos com o das cigarras.
Pinta de azul a alma. Permuta
o que foste pelo que não serás.
Limpa tua casa. Diz o teu precipício.
Cozinha. Convida. Canta. Dança. Abraça.
Tira o pó de tua voz. Rega as plantas.
As dos pés também, no mar, marchando.
Não te detenhas. Perante ti teus passos,
tuas pegadas de amanhã, esperam-te, convocam-te.
Não olhes para trás. Não sejas tua estátua
de sal. E sai de ti, do que pensas
de ti. Sai desse quarto
escuro onde escreves os poemas
que dizem o que tens que fazer em vez de faze-lo.
Põe-te a andar. Faz. Trabalha. Não te queixes.
Vira a página. Vai. Veja. Sê atento
e fica atento. Não esqueças o que vives.
Não esqueças o que acabas de viver.
Não esqueças o que acaba. Acaba. Vai
em busca de uma nova voz, distante.
Não fujas do que sentes. Não permitas
que a vida se vá em vão,
que a morte ao chegar encontre
seu trabalho já feito. Contempla o céu
como quem diz adeus,
como quem demonstra gratidão.



Juan Vicente Piqueras




segunda-feira, 24 de junho de 2024

Why You Probably Feel Distant from Your Father


Ketut Subiyanto






There is a truth about african fathers that goes unnoticed or unaddressed for years. 
An unspoken truth. 
You may be experiencing this unspoken truth—a tension between you and your father, but you are unsure about what you feel or why you feel that way.

It is weird because your father has always lived with you, provided for you, and may not have done anything to make you mad or sad. But you still feel, well, distant from him. 
As a son who grew up with African parents in a humble home in Canada, this has been my reality for many years (24 to be exact) and I am sure many people can relate.

After 24 years of living with my father, I still don’t know who he is.
It is not that he wasn’t there for me. Far from that! I saw him every day, doing his duties of providing for my mother and my two sisters. Yet, there has always been a wall between us. For me, it’s almost a burden to go to him for help or get that fatherly moment I always yearned for.

African fathers, more than others, have been known for being emotionally distant from their children. If you too feel this way, here are probably the reasons why:

He Thinks Providing Food, Shelter and Clothing is Enough

These are the basic duties of any parent. My father always made sure food, shelter, and clothing were provided and I will always be thankful for that. However, the truth is that children need so much more from their fathers, including quality time, and emotional connection in order to be fully functional in society. If you did not have this with your dad, it is quite typical to disconnect from him as you grow older.

Your Father May Not Know How To Express His Emotions Properly

Have you ever said “I love you, Dad” to your father? Was his response something along the lines of “Okay” or “Yes”? A lot of children can relate to their father finding it incredibly hard to utter the words – I love you.

Humans love it when their emotions are reciprocated.If you expressed heartfelt emotions to your father and those emotions were left unanswered (it’s similar to your crush not liking you back), it is of no surprise that you would feel distant from him. It is the same if you have never heard your father say those words to you.

You are Scared of Telling Him About your Failures 

Growing up as a kid, the two days I dreaded the most were the days I brought home my report card and parent-teacher nights. I knew there would be consequences in the form of yelling or lashes for my grades (no matter how hard I was trying in school) or for any bad remarks from my teacher.

Not only that. Anything considered bad, according to certain societal standards (even though it may not necessarily be bad), would have the same consequences. People with tattoos or male ear piercings will probably relate better with this. Children experiment with life all the time; it is how we live and learn. Stifling their creativity or punishing them for every little thing is one sure way to create that distance between you both.

Your Father Genuinely Has Little Time to Spend with You

First-generation immigrant parents may typically have this issue. In order to provide for themselves and the family, they have to get multiple jobs. This makes it hard for them to spend quality time with their children. This is the main reason I felt so distant from my father, and I am sure a lot of people can relate to this.

He Is Too Caught Up with Who you Should Be, Rather than Who You Are

The expectations our fathers put on us can sometimes be unbearable. Growing up, many children could relate to their parents bragging to others about what a fine doctor, engineer, or lawyer they would be in the future. For many who are not doctors or lawyers now, they can almost see the disappointment in their parent’s faces.

The truth is that life comes at us hard and things do not always go as planned. That feeling of disappointment parents express towards their children greatly affects their self-worth. The guilt of not living up to your father’s expectations could be the reason you feel distant from him, especially if all you wanted to do was make him proud.

He May Think It is Your Mother’s Duty to Nurse You Emotionally

Sometimes, outdated beliefs can be the cause of why you feel so distant from your father. In most African traditions, it is believed that the mother typically takes the role of nursing the child and as such, should be responsible for connecting with them emotionally. If your father still holds dear this age-old belief, chances are that he will be disconnected from you emotionally.

He still Treats You like a Child Even Though You Are An Adult

Being talked to like a child, when you are an adult, is not a pleasant experience for anyone. Unfortunately, this has been a common occurrence between many fathers and their children. The most common situation is when the child is of a certain age and is not yet married or does not have a professional career. This type of treatment may make you feel unheard and disrespected and may create a communication gap between yourself and your dad.





If you have experienced or are experiencing any of these, do not give up on your attempt to reconnect with your father. The first step to take is expressing your feelings to him, no matter how hard it is. It will take time to do away with old habits and develop the relationship you want with him but patience pays off. Sometimes, they are genuinely unaware of how they make you feel, and taking the initiative to tell them can resolve most issues.

I can happily say that communicating the reasons I felt distant from my father was the best thing I did to save my relationship with him. It lifted a huge burden and that awkward tension off my shoulders. We have since become closer than ever!

If you are a father, you should also make a conscious effort to build a better relationship with your children. Providing for their needs is important, but bonding with them on all levels is more important.

  1. How is your current relationship with your father? 
  2. As a father, do you have a solid relationship with your child?




Kwame Adjei




domingo, 23 de junho de 2024

Where Are You Now



Pitinan Piyavatin 




Why is life so unfair 
like things aren't really there
 all I ever wanted was my parents to love me
 to hear them say sweetie would be  a sweet dream
 I asked you Lord what can I do
 if only you would step in my shoes
 can't you see that I need love too 
 why oh why I cried I
 cannot hold these feelings in and continue to lie 
 I try to fit in things weren't right 
sometimes I feel all alone and want to take flight
 mama papa where are you now 
I'm almost grown and you're not around 
how can you leave me alone with nothing but frowns 
you're out of town nowhere to be found 
papa mama where are you now
 I pray to God that one day you'll both can be found


Honesty Sampson






Feeling hurt by someone you love?




Quincy Jones with daughter, Jolie, 1961 
by Moneta Sleet Jr. Johnson






His explosive rage. His lying. His affair that led to the divorce. His mistress who became the new girlfriend. His consistent lack of emotional support.
 
The twenty-five-year-old woman who called to talk about her father had an endless list of his bad behaviors. “His issues are cast aside as being a result of his environment,” she told me. “He grew up very poor, so people attribute him being rough around the edges to that, but to me, that [gives] him so much grace, and I’m the one who’s the recipient of all his harshness.” 
 
 
THERE WERE SO MANY LAYERS TO HER HURT.
My goal with these sessions is to give participants clarity, whether it's a shift in perspective or identifying skills for them to cultivate once we’ve parted ways.

I asked her what she was trying to figure out, why she had reached out to me, especially considering her guilt about it. “I feel like a bad person,” she said, “because I know this is my father and, especially in Black American culture, you’re not supposed to talk about your relationship with your parents outside of the house.” She shared that she had started listening to my podcast in the first place because she didn’t feel comfortable getting relationship advice from her parents. Eventually, she found herself submitting an application to be on the show.

“Being in a relationship with someone who’s caused me so much pain . . . I guess [I’m trying to] figure out how to move forward and if I want a relationship [with him]. How does one even process it when I’m still dealing with anger about things that have been boiling and boiling and boiling for twenty years?” 



I AM WONDERING HOW MANY OF YOU READING THIS LETTER RELATE TO THIS WOMAN.
Situations like these feel intensely unique to the person living it, but I hear stories like this all the time in my office: 
  • “His traumatic upbringing may have caused his behavior, but it doesn’t excuse it.” 
  • “He’s never taken responsibility.” 
  • “Doesn’t he want better for his kids than he had?” 
 
I learned from this woman that her father did want better for his kids, and that he had made good on that—just not how she wanted. Long ago, he had promised himself that his children would never grow up poor, and they hadn’t. He is currently supporting his daughter through school. She had made a clear distinction, however, between his financial support and his emotional absence. I saw an opportunity to help her see that, for him, perhaps being able to provide for his family was plenty emotional, that being there for her in a way no one had been for him carried a lot more meaning than mere dollars. 

Even if she could bring herself to see this, she and her father would remain stuck in their cycle unless something changed. And she’d have to be the one to do it. What would happen if, instead of telling him, yet again, what he’s done wrong, she showed her understanding and appreciation of what he had done well? If she could say: 
“Being able to provide for me must have given you such meaning because it was a promise you made to yourself and you did it. Thank you for supporting me.”
 
Perhaps it would disarm him, move him to know that his child understood him, his goodness alongside his imperfections and shortcomings. He might feel seen by her which, in turn, might invite a similar response from him. 
What would he then be able to see in her?
 
 
WHAT I SAW IN HER WAS WHAT I’VE SEEN IN EVERY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP THERE IS.
When you feel deeply hurt by someone you love, seeing that person with compassion can be experienced as invalidating your own feelings. It can feel as if forgiving this person will further enable their bad behavior. Maybe it will. But the alternative is staying stuck—not growing together but also not moving past the situation as an individual. 
 
Sometimes, fully cutting off your father is completely necessary. 
More often, I hope, it’s a situation that requires you to keep “growing up” together. 
It may require you to accept each others’ limitations. 
You may have to decide that loving him means saying, 
“Thank you for what you’ve done for me,” 
instead of waiting for the apology that will never be enough. 

The funny thing about accountability is that, when you do it first, you make it safer for others to do the same. It doesn’t invalidate your feelings, but it may help him access his. 

Let’s Turn the Lens on You 
  • What is an insight about your father that changed your understanding of him?
  • What’s a question you’ve always wanted to ask your father? 
  • What’s the thing you’ve least understood about him? 
  • What are the words you wish he would say?
  • What does your father’s happiness look like?


 Esther Perel




sábado, 22 de junho de 2024

The joy of being animal

 

Jenny Marvin


Human exceptionalism is dead: 
for the sake of 
our own happiness and the planet 
we should embrace 
our true animal nature.



When I visited my grandmother at the undertakers, an hour or so before her funeral, I was struck by how different death is from sleep. A sleeping individual shimmers with fractional movements. The dead seem to rest in paused animation, so still they look smaller than in life. It’s almost impossible not to feel as if something very like the soul is no longer present. Yet my grandmother had also died with Alzheimer’s. Even in life, something of who she was had begun to abandon her. And I wondered, as her memories vanished, had she become a little less herself, a little less human?

These end-of-life stages prick our imaginations. They confront us with some unsettling ideas. We don’t like to face the possibility that irreversible biological processes in our bodies can snuff out the stunning light of our individual experience. We prefer to deny our bodies altogether, and push away the dark tendrils of a living world we fear. The trouble for us is that this story – that we aren’t really our bodies but some special, separate ‘thing’ – has made a muddle of reality. 

Problems flow from the notion that we’re split between a superior human half and the inferior, mortal body of an animal. In short, we’ve come to believe that our bodies and their feelings are a lesser kind of existence. 
But what if we’re wrong? 
What if all parts of us, including our minds, are deeply biological, and our physical experiences are far more meaningful and richer than we’ve been willing to accept?

As far as we know, early hunter-gatherer animist societies saw spirit everywhere. 
All life possessed a special, non-physical essence. 
In European classical thought, many also believed that every living thing had a soul
But souls were graded. Humans were thought to have a superior soul within a hierarchy. 
By the time of theologians such as the Italian Dominican friar and philosopher Thomas Aquinas, in the 13th century, this soulful view of life had retreated, leaving humans the only creature still in possession of an immortal one. 

As beings with a unique soul, we were more than mere animals. Our lives were set on a path to salvation. Life was now a great chain of being, with only the angels and God above us.

But, as the Middle Ages came to a close in the 16th century, a fresh, apparently rational form of exceptionalism began to spread. The origins for this shift lie in the thinking of René Descartes, who gave the world a new version of dualism. 
Descartes argued that thought is so different from the physical, machine-like substance of the body that we should see humans as having two parts: the thoughtful mind and the thoughtless, physical body. 
This was religion refocused through a rational lens. 
 
The division between humans and the rest of nature was no longer the soul – or, at least, not only the soul – but rather our intellectual capabilities: our reason, our moral sensibilities, our gifts for abstraction. He assumed, of course, that other animals don’t think.

Enlightenment figures such as John Locke and Immanuel Kant in the 17th and 18th centuries developed this further. According to them, it was the fruits of our intelligence that made us truly human. Through mental powers, humans live more meaningfully than other beings. In other words, we humans have a soulful mind. It was even suggested that we are our thoughts, and that these phantasmal mental aspects of humans are more important and even, daringly, separable from the impoverished biology that we share with other animals.

In many ways, Darwinism posed a threat to this intensifying vision of the human and our place in nature. Charles Darwin disrupted both the idea of a neat divide between humans and other forms of life, and also complicated the possibilities for mind-body dualism. If humans had evolved from earlier, ancestral primates, then our minds, too, must have emerged through ordinary, evolutionary processes with deep roots in nature. It’s easy to forget today just how shattering Darwinism was for a whole generation. Darwin himself wrote to his friend, the American botanist Asa Gray, to express his acute fear of seeing humans as a fully integrated part of a seemingly amoral natural world, where there’s ‘too much misery’. Perhaps we shouldn’t be surprised, then, to find the redoubling of efforts to assert new forms of human redemption in the years after publication of On the Origin of Species (1859).

One such effort came in the form of the ‘human revolution’ – the idea that some kind of cognitive leap took place in the recent evolution of Homo sapiens that forever split us from other species. Another was in the 20th-century reworking of Enlightenment humanism that sought to find scientific proofs of human exception, and to argue that only these ultimately matter. Modern humanism promised to be about the ‘complete realisation of human personality’ in an onward march ‘to move farther into space and perhaps inhabit other planets’. The history of global philosophy on humans and other animals might be mischievously summarised as a long study in mental bias.

Today, our thinking has shifted along with scientific evidence, incorporating the genetic insights of the past century. 
We now know we’re animals, related to all other life on our planet. 
We’ve also learned much about cognition, including the uneasy separation between instinct and intention, and the investment of the whole body in thought and action. 
As such, we might expect attitudes to have changed. But that isn’t the case. 
  1. We still live with the belief that humans, in some essential way, aren’t really animals. 
  2. We still cling to the possibility that there’s something extrabiological that delivers us from the troubling state of being an organism trapped by flesh and death. 

In the words of the philosopher Derek Parfit
‘the body below the neck is not an essential part of us.’ 

Many of us still deny that human actions are the result of our animal being, instead maintaining that they’re the manifestation of reason. We think our world into being. And that’s sometimes true. 
The trouble comes when we think our thoughts are our being.

There are real-world consequences to these ideas. 
Having a humanlike mind has become a moral dividing line. 

In our courts, we determine what we can and can’t do to other sentient beings on the basis of the absence of a mind with features like ours. 
Those things that look too disturbingly body-centred, like impulse or agency, regardless of their outcomes or role in flourishing, are viewed as lower down on the moral scale. 
Meanwhile, the view that physical, animal properties (many of which we share with other species) have little significance has left us with the absurd idea that we can live without our bodies. 

So it is that we pursue biological enhancement in search of the true essence of our humanity. 
Some of the world’s largest biotech companies are developing not only artificial forms of intelligence but brain-machine interfaces in the hope that we might one day achieve superintelligence or even mental immortality by downloading our minds into a synthetic form. 
It follows that our bodies, our flesh and our feelings – from laughing with our friends to listening to music to cuddling our children – can be seen as a threat to this paradigm.


Why is this animal-denialism so entrenched in the human psyche, across cultures and millennia of time? 
The orthodox (if, still, speculative) story from evolutionary biology, as suggested by figures such as the American zoologist Richard Alexander in the 1970s, is that our subjective, imaginative mind has its origins in a bundle of adaptations for social cognition. As primates who lived in groups, our ancestors needed one another to survive; yet their social environment was also competitive, making the need patchy enough to empower the kind of cognition that gives us our sense of ‘me’. 
Add to that the need to gather insight into our own motivations and those of others, and to incorporate a rich, layered memory of experience, and we’re left with a staggering attention to internal states and external stimuli – the exact flavour of which consciousness researchers endlessly battle about. 
These many biological routes to attention gift us our selfhood.

Unfortunately for us, this self-salience has left us with the bizarre sensation that who we really are is some kind of floating mind, our identity a kind of thinking, or rather, a thinking about thinking, rather than the whole feeling, sensing, sometimes instinctual colony of cells that makes up the entire unit of our animal being. 

Our selfhood gives rise to the sensation that we’re a thing trapped inside a body. 
And we can speculate that several things flow from this. 
We have a heightened awareness of the threats we face as animals – not least an awareness that we’ll die one day. 

As W B Yeats put it in his poem ‘Sailing to Byzantium’ (1928), 
we are ‘fastened to a dying animal’. 
And, because we feel as if we’re somehow more than our bodies, we’re reassured that we can escape the frightening limits of our flesh. 

In other words, 
our sensation of mental distinctiveness becomes our hope for salvation.

But humans don’t only have selfhood – we also have insight into other selves. 
By making sound judgments about the internal states of others and communicating as we do, we have an extraordinary network of exchanges available to us. 
When the pathogen SARS-CoV-2 hit our societies causing havoc and heartbreak, we nonetheless had systems of communication, healthcare infrastructure, and methods for understanding the virus that would be impossible without the biological mechanisms that encourage us to work together for shared benefit. 

One of the glues of our cooperation is our ability to think into and make judgments about each other’s minds, experiences and intentions.


There’s still more evidence for the adaptive nature of cooperation in something we’ve come to call ‘social buffering’. 
This is the way that measurable stress can be reduced by proximity to a member of our community. Closeness and good relationships affect our wellbeing, modulating the release of stress hormones such as cortisol that can suppress our immune systems. 

A hug, the holding of a partner’s hands during a tough situation, access to our group in times of stress – all these create measurable effects on our health, and improve our ability to cope with the knocks of life. These benefits accumulate across a lifetime and have been found elsewhere among group-living animals, especially mammals.

But it’s a little more complicated for an animal like us. 
We use ideas to bring about the kinds of buffering responses created by our relationships. 
Where other social animals gain support by physical proximity to a relative or group-member, humans gain this through psychological proximity as well. 

In other words, the ideas that bring us together have physical consequences. This buffering is active for any worldview or ideology that facilitates group-belonging – and that might be something as innocuous as a local football team.

But there’s a little twist in this tale.

Evidence shows that social buffering often involves ranking the minds and skills of our own group (including the largest set, the Homo sapiens) as higher than those of others. 

Research by the Dutch psychologist Carsten De Dreu has revealed how some of the beliefs about the superior mental content of our own groups affect oxytocin, reinforcing our bonds with each other and increasing our commitment to the thoughts and feelings of our compatriots. 

Elsewhere, the work of the Italian psychologist Jeroen Vaes has demonstrated how fears and dangers prompt people to renew their group bonds, and this includes seeing group members as more human than those outside the group (with ‘more human’ measured as individuals with higher intelligence and greater signals of secondary emotions such as empathy or pride). 

In other words, we see the minds of our own group as superior to the minds of those on the outside, and when we want to reinforce that – especially, if we feel under threat – we increase our beliefs in the superior judgment of our own centre of belonging, and can denigrate anyone or anything that contradicts this. While that ‘group’ is often the culture or ideology with which we identify, for humans that group can also simply be us.

Intriguingly, recent studies have shown that the idea that we’re not really animals – and especially the idea that humans are hierarchically superior forms of life – is one of those profoundly reassuring ideas that we favour. 

Nour Kteily, a researcher at Northwestern University in Illinois, studies the ways that groups of people interact. He has developed the ‘ascent of man measure’, which exploits the progressive idea of humans rising to the top of a biological hierarchy. What he found is that stress or the presence of threats can prime us to favour human uniqueness. 
This generates a curious paradox, of course, if we view being animal as a threat in and of itself.

So why does this matter now? 
Nobody is denying that humans are exceptional. 
The concept of human uniqueness is only a problem when we deny the beauty and necessity both of our animal lives and the lives of other animals. 

No matter whether our origin stories tell us we’re possessors of spiritual properties or our courts tell us we’re ‘persons’ with dignity, we privilege the transcendent over the physical. The root word for ‘exception’ is the Latin excipere, which means ‘to take out’. 
 
We have always longed to be saved, to be ‘taken out’ from what we dislike or fear of our animal condition. But the pursuit of escape becomes more serious once we have powerful technologies to engineer and exploit biology.

These days, there is substantial investment in different technical routes to escape the limits or dangers of being animal, whether through DNA repair or stem-cell treatments or the transfer of more and more of ourselves to synthetic or machine forms. 
Google, Amazon and Elon Musk’s Neuralink are just three of the major corporations working in some of these areas. 
These are all part of a general trend to control and technologise more and more of our animal life. 
But, in seeking ways to enhance ourselves, people rarely acknowledge what we’d be leaving behind. 

As we start to use these new powers, it’s imperative that we dwell on what we stand to lose. 
The point here is not to argue that we ought to act as animals but rather that we are animals, and that a huge amount of the quality of our experience lies in a fully embodied animal life.

Some of the most important stages of life happen in the womb and in the early bonds with our carers in the weeks and months after birth. And the quality of those bonds and the wellbeing of our mothers can have lasting effects on us and the people we come to be. 

As the Israeli psychologist Ruth Feldman has written: 
‘Later attachments … repurpose the basic machinery established by the mother-offspring bond during early “sensitive periods”.’ 

These crucial years in human development involve crosstalk between hormones, environment and touch that influence how the baby’s neural networks are organised. 
The central nervous system, the resilience to stress, all bear the marks of the early, deeply embodied years of our lives. 
When a parent and child embrace, the effects are staggering, regulating body temperature, heart rate and respiration. 

People in a temporary alliance, whether queer or straight, old or young, conservative or liberal, synch in ways that are measurable, from hormonal shifts to oscillations of the gamma and alpha rhythms of our brains, and these nourishing alliances reservice those first intimate, mammalian bonds.

Far from being solely the product of our brains and self-direction, then, humans are intimately affected by their whole physical being and its environment. 
Some devastating evidence for this comes from the children of Romania’s orphanages, who were abandoned with little physical or sensory affection by the cruelties and excesses of the country’s leader Nicolae Ceaușescu’s regime. This neglect left them with lifelong struggles, extending to language delays and visual-spatial disruption. 

These are painful reminders that our ability to flourish and express ourselves is profoundly influenced by the way our bodies are treated and valued in the earliest stages of our lifecycle.

And that should matter to those who seek ways to define what’s important about human life. 
There’s the exciting possibility to some in the research and business community that we might soon exploit new biotechnologies such as the CRISPR gene and genome-editing tool, or have access to a kind of embryo ‘agriculture’ through frontier reproductive tools such as in-vitro gametogenesis (a technology that enables the switch from something like a skin cell into a stem cell), and thereby select the most disease-resistant or intelligence-scored embryos as our children. 

It’s of note, however, that the pursuit of this would disrupt and industrialise human life from its inception. In other words, we wouldn’t make our babies through sex, and nurturing might be done by engineering rather than by love and touch.

In less dramatic disruptions, we’re increasingly turning over our lives to our smartphones, with little attention paid to how our whole bodies influence who we become and how we thrive. 

The fact that children learn better through physical movement and gesture, including language acquisition, is ignored by those who want to operationalise teaching online. The research community is troublingly divided on how time online affects our mental and physical wellbeing. Studies from equally reputable sources announce that social media doesn’t affect mental health at the same time as another provides convincing evidence that it does. 
But a little common sense is useful here. 

What we can say for sure is that time online crowds out time spent in physical contact with others and in contact with the physical world. Only a belief that our animal lives are somehow less important than our mental lives can allow us to minimise what that reduction of our physical experience might mean.

And this is to say nothing of what our denigration of being animal means for the other animals. 
We have spent thousands of years arguing that we’re the moral overlords of our world. 
That’s looking harder to justify now that we’re the agents of extinction and pollution. 
For centuries, we have tamped down these contradictions. 
But it’s no longer possible to ignore the long shadow we cast. 
Mammal sizes have been shrinking on our watch, and are now the smallest they’ve been since dinosaurs roamed the Earth. Our planet’s biomass of mammals now breaks down into a mere 4 per cent wild species, around 30 per cent humans, and the rest are animals we produce for food.

Of course, as we explore our animal being, we’re confronted by the inconvenient possibility that these animals that are disappearing have worlds of experience that ought to press on our moral circuitry far harder than we’ve allowed up to now. 
Life on Earth is full of diverse forms of intelligence and purpose. 
We’re only at the beginning of scientific discoveries about the way memory and intentions grip animal bodies from tip to claw. Eventually, we’re going to have to reckon with the true complexity of the other lives that surround us. 
The more we learn about other animals, the more we recognise other experiences that ought to matter if, by this logic, our own do.

It might well be in the rallying of our own bodily resources that our greatest opportunities lie. 
When we reconsider all that we gain by being animals, we’re confronted by some powerful resources for positive change. 

Just think of the gobsmacking beauty of bonding. 
If you have a dog beside you as you read this, bend down, look into her eyes, and stroke her. Via the hypothalamus inside your body, oxytocin will get to work, and dopamine – organic chemicals implicated in animal bonding – and, before you know it, you’ll be feeling good, even in the dark times of a pandemic. And, as it happens, so will your dog, who will experience a similar physical response to the bond between you both. Oxytocin is produced in the hypothalamus of all mammals. 

In other words, our bodies might well be our best and most effective tool in the effort to strike a new balance between humans and the rest of the living world. 

If we can tip ourselves more into a bonding frame of mind, we might find it easier to recognise the beauty and intelligence that we’re hellbent on destroying. 
By accepting that we’re animals too, we create the opportunity to think about how we might play to the strengths of our evolutionary legacies in ways that we all stand to gain from. 
If we can build a better relationship with our own reality and, indeed, a better relationship with other animals, we’ll be on the road to recovery.


Melanie Challenger




segunda-feira, 17 de junho de 2024

The ship of Theseus








The ship of Theseus, 
also known as Theseus’ paradox, 
is a thought experiment that 
raises the question of 
whether an object that has had 
all of its components replaced 
remains fundamentally the same object.



Theseus’ ship was a useful thought puzzle to illustrate the seemingly unsolvable paradox of who we are. Who are we in the face of our growth and evolving identity?

The paradox asks whether a ship - the ship of Theseus - that had been restored by replacing every single wooden part remained the same ship.

Everything in the 3D world changes, transforms, and renews. 
The world as we see it today is totally different from the world that existed 10, 100, or 1000 years ago. Nature continuously blossoms and dies. 
Yet, there is a matrix of continuity.

Consider having two photos side by side of the same person, one picture shows the person in old age and the other picture shows the person in their youth. 
How is the person in the two pictures the same, and how are they different?

The body continually regenerates cells, and science tells us that after seven years, the entire body no longer has any of its original cells. Therefore, the human body, just like the Ship of Theseus, has come to be different to its original form, because the old parts have been replaced with new ones to create an entirely new object.

The cells in our body die too, to get replaced by new ones. There’s very little of us (just some brain and muscle cells) that is the same as 10 or 20 years ago.

  • Coming back to the Theseus paradox - if almost all the cells in our body are different from when we were born, can we say we are a different person? 
  • Is the ship of Theseus the same ship, after having replaced every single part?

Are You Still You?
The Ship of Theseus paradox may seem like an abstract thought experiment at first, but it holds significant implications for our understanding of personal identity and the nature of change over time. As we go through life, we all experience physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual changes that can alter our sense of self. 
How do we know that we are the same person we were five years ago?

Physically, our bodies are constantly changing. 
Our cells (with the exception of some brain cells and your eye lens) are constantly dying and being replaced, and we may undergo significant changes in appearance over time. For example, we may gain or lose weight, develop wrinkles or gray hair, or undergo surgeries that alter our physical form. 

Emotionally and mentally, we may also undergo significant changes over time. 
Our experiences and relationships shape our personalities and perspectives, and we may develop new beliefs or values that fundamentally alter who we are. 

Spiritually, we may also experience shifts in our beliefs or sense of purpose over time. We may undergo spiritual awakenings or crises that fundamentally alter our understanding of ourselves and the world around us. 

The paradox asks whether we are still the same person after these changes, or if we have become someone new.
How much of our identity is tied to our physical body, our memories and experiences, and our beliefs and values?

In a sense, we are all like the ship of Theseus. 
Constantly undergoing change and evolution, and our sense of self is not fixed or static. Instead, we are in a perpetual state of becoming, adapting to new experiences and challenges. Our physical bodies and personalities do not define us; rather, it is our deeper sense of self and purpose. By embracing this fluidity and recognizing the potential for growth and transformation, we can cultivate a deeper sense of self-awareness and acceptance, enabling us to navigate life’s changes with greater ease and resilience.



According to Aristotle, the ship of Theseus is the ‘same’ ship, because the formal cause, or design, does not change, even though the matter used to construct it may vary with time.

This suggests that it’s the design, or the DNA that defines our identity; to preserve this initial design, this DNA, there is continuous change and adaptation.

While our identity is in a continuous evolution, change, and renegotiation, there is an underlying direction that our ship sails toward.

While in the ocean of life, we may drift and adapt, we must always remember where our ship is heading. Why was it initially built for, what was its purpose?

And if we get stuck in a sandbar, that’s perhaps because there are parts of us that need more expression. Exploring the different facets of our identity and bringing forward both our inner twins doesn’t make us inauthentic or contradictory. It's a natural part of the journey called life.


In Greek mythology, Theseus, mythical king and founder of the city Athens, rescued the children of Athens from King Minos after slaying the minotaur and then escaped onto a ship going to Delos. Each year, the Athenians would commemorate this by taking the ship on a pilgrimage to Delos to honour Apollo. A question was raised by ancient philosophers: After several hundreds of years of maintenance, if each individual piece of the Ship of Theseus was replaced, one after the other, was it still the same ship?

In contemporary philosophy, this thought experiment has applications to the philosophical study of identity over time, and has inspired a variety of proposed solutions and concepts in contemporary philosophy of mind concerned with the persistence of personal identity.

The account of the problem has been preserved by Plutarch in his Life of Theseus:

The ship wherein Theseus and the youth of Athens returned from Crete had thirty oars, and was preserved by the Athenians down even to the time of Demetrius Phalereus, for they took away the old planks as they decayed, putting in new and stronger timber in their places, insomuch that this ship became a standing example among the philosophers, for the logical question of things that grow; one side holding that the ship remained the same, and the other contending that it was not the same.

— Plutarch, Life of Theseus 23.1

Over a millennium later, the philosopher Thomas Hobbes extended the thought experiment by supposing that a ship custodian gathered up all of the decayed parts of the ship as they were disposed of and replaced by the Athenians, and used those decaying planks to build a second ship. Hobbes posed the question of which of the two resulting ships, the custodian's or the Athenians', was the same ship as the "original" ship.

For if that Ship of Theseus (concerning the Difference whereof, made by continual reparation, in taking out the old Planks, and putting in new, the sophisters of Athens were wont to dispute) were, after all the Planks were changed, the same Numerical Ship it was at the beginning; and if some Man had kept the Old Planks as they were taken out, and by putting them afterward together in the same order, had again made a Ship of them, this, without doubt, had also been the same Numerical Ship with that which was at the beginnings and so there would have been two Ships Numerically the same, which is absurd... But we must consider by what name anything is called when we inquire concerning the Identity of it... so that a Ship, which signifies Matter so figured, will be the same, as long as the Matter remains the same; but if no part of the Matter is the same, then it is Numerically another Ship; and if part of the Matter remains, and part is changed, then the Ship will be partly the same, and partly not the same.

— Thomas Hobbes, "Of Identity and Difference"


Hobbes considers the two resulting ships as illustrating two definitions of "Identity" or sameness that are being compared to the original ship:

  1. the ship that maintains the same "Form" as the original, that which persists through complete replacement of material and;
  2. the ship made of the same "Matter", that which stops being 100 per cent the same ship when the first part is replaced.


According to other scientists, the thought puzzle arises because of extreme externalism: the assumption that what is true in our minds is true in the world. 
Noam Chomsky says that this is not an unassailable assumption, from the perspective of the natural sciences, because human intuition is often mistaken. Cognitive science would treat this thought puzzle as the subject of an investigation of the human mind. Studying this human confusion can reveal much about the brain's operation, but little about the nature of the human-independent external world.

Following on from this observation, a significant strand[who?] in cognitive science would consider the ship not as a thing, nor even a collection of objectively existing thing parts, but rather as an organisational structure that has perceptual continuity.

In Europe, several independent tales and stories feature knives that have had their blades and handles replaced several times but are still used and represent the same knife. 
  1. France has Jeannot's knife, 
  2. Spain uses Jeannot's knife as a proverb, though it is referred to simply as "the family knife",  
  3. Hungary has "Lajos Kossuth's pocket knife". 

Several variants or alternative statements of the underlying problem are known, including the grandfather's axe and Trigger's broom,where an old axe or broom has had both its head and its handle replaced, leaving no original components.

The Tin Woodman, a character in the fictional Land of Oz, was originally a man of flesh and blood, but all his body parts were replaced one by one by metal parts. nevertheless, he retains his identity.

The ancient Buddhist text Da zhidu lun contains a similar philosophical puzzle: a story of a traveller who encountered two demons in the night. As one demon ripped off all parts of the traveler's body one by one, the other demon replaced them with those of a corpse, and the traveller was confused about who he was.

The French critic and essayist Roland Barthes refers at least twice to a ship that is entirely rebuilt, in the preface to his Essais Critiques (1971) and later in his Roland Barthes par Roland Barthes (1975); in the latter, the persistence of the form of the ship is seen as a key structuralist principle. He calls this ship the Argo, on which Theseus was said to have sailed with Jason; he may have confused the Argo (referred to in passing in Plutarch's Theseus at 19.4) with the ship that sailed from Crete (Theseus, 23.1).

In Japan, the Ise Grand Shrine is rebuilt every twenty years with entirely "new wood". The continuity over the centuries is considered spiritual and comes from the source of the wood, which is harvested from an adjoining forest that is considered sacred.




Two-faced Janus, depicting old age and youth, 
by unknown Italian sculptor, late 18th century, via Hermitage Museum



  One of the more interesting challenges 
to the position that 
continuity of mental states 
characterizes a human being 
is the question of 
transitivity of identity. 



This discussion becomes far more interesting when we stop talking about ancient ships and start talking about human beings. 

  • Every person changes over time. 
  • We grow from infants to old people. 
  • What properties does a three-year-old have in common with their eighty-three-year-old self? 
  • These philosophical questions are called the problems of personal identity. 
  • What are the properties that make up a particular human being? 

We are not the same person we were several years ago. Nevertheless, we are still considered the same person.
  
Some thinkers push the notion that a person is essentially their body. 
We each have different bodies and can say that every person is identified with their body. By postulating that a human being is their body, we are subject to the same insoluble questions that we faced with the ship of Theseus and other physical objects. 

Our bodies are in constant flux. Old cells die and new cells are constantly being born. In fact, most of the cells in our body are replaced every seven years. 
This leads to hundreds of questions that philosophers have posed over the centuries. 
Why should a person stay in jail after seven years? After all, “he” did not perform the crime. It was someone else. Should a person own anything after seven years? The old person bought it. 
In what sense is a person the same after having a limb amputated? 

Science fiction writers are adept at discussing challenging questions like cloning, mind transfers, identical twins, conjoined twins, and other interesting topics related to the notion that a person is the same as their body. 
  1. When an ameba splits, which is the original and which is the daughter? 
  2. When your body loses cells it loses atoms. These atoms can go on to belong to others. Similarly, other peoples’ atoms can become part of your body. 
  3. What about death? We usually think in terms of the end of a person’s existence when they are dead even though the body is still there. Sometimes we use sentences like “She is buried there” as if “she” were still a person. And sometimes we use sentences like “His body is buried there” as if there is a difference between “him” and his body. 

In short, it is problematic to say that a human being is identified with their body.


Other thinkers favor the notion that a person is really their mental state or psyche. 
After all, human beings are not simply their bodies. 
A person is more than a physical object because there is thought. 
To such philosophers, a person is a continuous stream of consciousness—they are memories, intentions, thoughts, and desires. 

This leads us to ask other insoluble questions: 
  1. What if a person has amnesia? Are they the same person? 
  2. Doesn’t a person’s personality change over time? 
  3. Who is the real you: the one who is madly in love with someone or the one who is bored with the same person two months later? 

Literally hundreds of questions can be posed about change in a person’s thoughts, memories, and desires. 

Again, philosophers and science fiction writers have become quite adept at describing interesting scenarios that challenge our notion of a human being as a continuous stream of mental states. These scenarios are concerned with Alzheimer’s disease, amnesia, personality changes, split-brain experiments, multiple personality disorders, computers as minds, and so on. 

There are also many questions along the lines of the mind-body problem. 
How much is the mind—that characterizes a human being— independent of the brain, which is a part of the body?

One of the more interesting challenges to the position that continuity of mental states characterizes a human being is the question of transitivity of identity. 
My mental states are essentially the same as they were ten years ago. That means I am the same person I was ten years ago. Furthermore, ten years ago, my mental states were essentially the same as they were ten years earlier. Hence the person I was ten years ago is the same as the person I was twenty years ago. 

However, at present, I do not have similar mental states to those I had twenty years ago. So how can it be that I am the same person I was ten years ago, and that person is the same as I was twenty years ago, but I am not the same as I was twenty years ago?


Yet another option is that everyone has a unique soul that determines who they are. 
Avoiding the questions of the definition or existence of a soul, let us concentrate instead on how this answers our question of the essential nature of a human being. 
  1. Assuming the existence of a soul, what is the relationship between the soul and the body? 
  2. What is the relationship between a soul and a person’s actions, psyche, and personality? 
  3. If there is no connection, then in what sense is one soul different from another soul?
  4. How can you differentiate between souls—or identities, for that matter—if they have no influence over any part of you? What would the purpose of an identity be? 
  5. If, on the other hand, a connection exists, then does the identity change when the body, actions, psyche, or personality changes? 
  6. Is the soul in flux? 

If the identity does change, we are back to the same questions we had previously asked: 
  1. Who is the real you? 
  2. Are you the one with the soul prior to the change or are you the one with the changed soul?

Most people probably have an opinion 
representing some hybrid version 
of all three ideologies: 
a person is a composite of 
body, mind, and soul. 


Nevertheless, all schools of thought are somewhat problematic.
  



Zhao Chen


 

You’re going from point A to point B and then things fall apart catastrophically and you’re here. […] So you can think: Well, I’m who I was, that would be one kind of identity, I’m the person I thought I was. That blows apart. Then you’re in this terrible place and you think, oh, I’m the sort of person who’s in this terrible place. That’s another form of identify.

And then you can think: I’m not the old person or the person who was in the catastrophe, I’m the new person. But the problem is the new person can fall apart, too.

But then there’s a third way of thinking. This is a better way of thinking. I’m not this, or this, or this, I’m the process by which [the transformation] occurs. I know something, it’s not quite right. It collapses, it causes trouble (the collapse), but I regroup, I learn, I regenerate, I put myself back together and it happens again and it happens again. But each time it happens, maybe, you’re a little wiser, you’re a little more put together.

Jordan B. Peterson


Who are we in the face of our growth and evolving identity? 
Peterson conceptualises our identity as a story and suggests that we therefore shouldn’t look at ourselves as fixed states. Rather our identity is the driving force behind the transformation between the states — for the worse or for the better.

I can’t help but notice similarities to the Zen idea of the eternal now. It posits that the past and the future are mere illusions as there is only what happens in the never-ending moment. Paradoxically, this reduces our story to a single state. Reality is experienced only in the present. The past is in your mind only. The future is speculation.

Peterson’s thoughts are also a nod to personal agency and responsibility. 
In his reading, identity would be less defined by where who, or what we are at any given moment. But by how we respond to those states. That is the decision we make to transcend our inevitable suffering and manage to grow in spite of it. Again, it would make for a good Zen story in that it’s precisely our insufficiencies that cause transformations through a ceaseless effort to make things better than they are.

What makes this interpretation resonate? 
It’s no secret that we tend to be harsher on ourselves than on others. After all, we can’t escape the vivid memories of all the worst versions of our past selves. 
With other people, however, I found that I rather tend to focus on the trajectory they chose for their lives. What I tend to see, respect and admire in people is their story of having been to hell and gotten back out alive. In other words, I see in them the transformative spirit that drives them.

With that in mind, we should be able to put Theseus’ ship to rest. 
The thought experiment seems to be less about the rotten planks and more about the act of taking responsibility for replacing them. 
It’s about the willingness to respond to inadequacies and to let go of insufficiencies, including the ones that gradually built over time. 
Had the ship not been cared for, the vessel would’ve eventually ceased to exist due to natural decay. Granted, ships don’t have agency, which is why Theseus has to act as a proxy.

Even though in the original story the king has long passed away, we could argue that the wood was replaced in the spirit of preserving his legacy. Arguably, this wouldn’t have happened if Theseus’ deeds hadn’t had such a profound impact on Greek society. 

The replacement of the rotten planks becomes a symbol of responsible behaviour. 
The same goes for our shipbuilder. It’s not about where the planks came from. But about his efforts to turn the discarded material into something new and useful. 






Fontes: 
Noah Levin, in“Introduction to Philosophy and the Ship of Theseus.”
Noson S. Yanofsky, in "The Outer Limits of Reason: What Science, Mathematics, and Logic Cannot Tell Us" 
Jordan B. Peterson,in " 12 Rules for Life Tour"